Me fail dating...that's not unpossible

Were you wondering what happened to this boy?

ME TOO.

So Wednesday night passes, my self-imposed limit for when he can call and me not be totally pissed about it, and I decide to bite the bullet and talk to the girl who set us up. I had given him until this Wednesday in my head because he had finals last week, and so, at the end of our fabulously wonderful date when he said,

"I'll call you."*

I took him at his word and said, "Don't even think about calling me until your finals are over."

Because let's be honest, I know what finals from hell are like. And given the grad program he is in, he too knows all about hellish finals too.

So even though I was ticked he listened to my instructions and didn't call me last week (because let's be honest I am awesome and how can you stay away from this?) I couldn't get too mad. It was me, after all, who instructed him not to call last week.

Anyway, my resolve broke down today and I finally talked to the girl who set us up to see what was up. Because like I said we laughed for six hours straight. How often do you find someone who jokingly call "Never nude" and he immediately comes back with, "There are dozens of us! Two in the German Parliament." Ah Arrested Development, you faded out too soon. And how many boys, when you mention your love of all things Buffy say, "We should watch that together." GAH! No boy says that. Most just look at you like you're nuts for even daring to admit you watch Buffy.

ANYWAY.

The girl who set us up tells me that he just got out of a super serious relationship and is into "going on a lot of dates with a lot of different girls" right now.

And sadly, second dates in the LDS culture in Utah are usually viewed as stepping into serious dating territory. But you know who's not okay with that? ME. You know who doesn't like to be exclusive right away? ME. You know who doesn't like to get serious** for at least a year. ALSO ME. Does all this make me an outcast in the dating culture here. Why yes, yes it does. Does that mean that I often have vastly different expectations than the guys I date, which leads to early rifts in our relationship. Why, that would be another yes. And you wonder why I'm still single.

That reminds me of a quote I read once (but honestly, what doesn't remind me of something I read?):

By the second date, although both parties are unaware of it, the seeds of future conflict have already been planted
-Diane Stingley, Dress You Up in My Love

Anyway. While he is busy being a man-boy and not calling me. I shall continue to grow in awesomeness.


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*Don't say it if you don't mean it. Saying, "It was nice to meet you." is PERFECTLY acceptable if you don't intend to call. Try it. Those six syllables do not cause instantaneous death. That's the truth.

** Okay, Little Fish makes a good point. I don't mind getting serious before a year is up. I just don't really want to get engaged before at least year has passed.

***I totally reserve to take down this rant if circumstances should call for it. Although, I will try to be strong if he does call for it. Damn it. Why did we have to get along so well.

****I'll stop abusing all caps in my next post. Cross my heart.